Salam aidilfitri 1430H

It's hard being me.

Kepada kawan2, saya ingin memohon maaf zahir dan batin andai ada yg tersinggung dengan diri ini.
especially dkt sesiapa yg tak tertunai lagi hak sbg seorang kawan~ sorry guys. Maybe some other time I will have to repay ;)

Fragile I am still.

Find a good meaning of stupidity :)

Stupidity could be broadly defined as being ignorant, refusing to learn from past experiences on account of ego and in an informal sense as not being alert both physically as well as mentally. Stupidity is a highly relative term as what one may perceive as stupid may be highly appropriate and wise with respect to the other person. It is only when a person becomes complacent and smug that one becomes susceptible to being stupid.

Another definition of stupidity is believing everything without trying to confirm or analyse the situation and letting one's thoughts and decisions influenced by irrational fears like for example having a superstitious dread of certain things. Stupidity in some cultures is defined as not being well mannered and mindful of propriety and decorum while the same behaviour in other cultures may seem to be arrogant and egoistic and consequently stupid

Unwell by Matchbox 20

I love this song so much =)

Anxiety

Anxiety is a thought process and a very destabilizing and unresourceful one. But the good news is that you are in control of your thoughts and how you think; it's just that in the past you might not have been shown how to do this properly. By following the simple steps below you can begin to retrain your mind and your thinking and work towards a healthier and calmer mind.

1) AWARENESS

When you find yourself thinking anxious thoughts very often your mind is future focused. Bring yourself back to the present moment. Studies have shown that people are less likely to be anxious if they are in the present moment. You are probably aware that of all of those things that you have worried about in the past, very few of them come to fruition - so why spend the time worrying about them. Your mental energy is best applied to other things. Become a master of keeping your mind in the present moment more and more.

2) BREATHE

Take the time to fill your lungs with oxygen. You may have noticed that when you are off doing your anxious thinking that your breathing will follow a pattern. This pattern of breathing coupled with the thinking releases certain neuro-chemicals into your nervous system that put you into a state that is known as fight or flight. Taking deep breaths allows you achieve a calmer and more present state of mind and releases other more relaxing neuro-chemicals into your nervous system. So get better at breathing deeper more and more every day.

3) CHOICE

When I help people to manage their stress and anxiety I help them to understand the choices that they are making. Your feelings follow your thoughts so if you are thinking anxious thoughts it is a given, a law of nature in fact (cause and effect), that you will have anxious feelings. If however you choose calm and peaceful thoughts you will invariably feel calm and peaceful feelings. So what do you choose now?

These steps really work for most people but only after much practice and perseverance. I recommend that if you are busy thinking of the future most of the time then start to wear a rubber band on your wrist. Every time you catch yourself thinking of the future: ping the rubber band then start the ABC process outlined above. This will improve your ability to stay present.

Mark Buchan is a Personal Development Coach who helps people take back control of their minds and their emotions. He has invented a process called the "Inner Coach Process" that he teaches to his clients to help them with behaviour change, overcoming stress and anxiety and other issues that get in the way of a healthy and productive life.

How to survive the workplace Part 2

It's imperative for your career survival that your written communication skills be equal to your verbal skills. Take the time when you are preparing written documents to proofread each line carefully for content (meaning), grammar (correct usage of the word) and typos (misspelled words.)

Your work is a reflection of who you are and decision makers pass judgment on your communication skills every time you open your mouth or send and email message.


2. Assess your abilities - abilities are the talents, gifts and skills you were born with or developed expertise in over time. Identify what it is your do really well. The things no one else can beat you doing. The skills and talents you have mastered. These are your true abilities. You might be surprised to discover what your are really good at has nothing to do with your current profession.

My mother has been an accountant for more than 40 years and she's good at it, yet her true talent lies in her ability to bake an egg custard pie from starch, with a recipe her grandmother taught her that she will not reveal, even to her only daughter. This is only one of her many talents. Identify your abilities, talents, skills and gifts.


3. Recite your responsibilities - identify the task you have been responsible for completing in all of your career positions. Remember that what you have been responsible for my not necessary be the same as your talents and gifts. We are all responsible for tasks on our various jobs descriptions that do not address our God given abilities, yet we do them. It's important for resume building that you know what you have been responsible for in each of your previous positions.


4. Sharpen your business etiquette skills- fast trackers have mastered being comfortable in business and social settings that require not only knowing which fork to use but how to make business introductions and how to have a good time without losing their professional edge.


5. Display your enthusiasm - people are drawn to other people with energy so get some energy, motivation and inspiration through positive literature and CDs. Be sensitive to what your allow in your spirit because you can only share what you already have in your system. Watch the company you keep, soar only with eagles, not every one will allow you to fly. Watch what you read, because your thoughts will become your actions. Monitor what you listen to because you will repeat it to others.


6. Establish your business ethics- make sure your moral compass is always pointing north. Never let it be said that you can be bought for any price or the quality of your work has been compromised due to a lapse in judgment, or a quick but unethical fix on your part.


7. Identify your entrepreneurial skills - all good entrepreneurs, are good employees. All good employees can be good entrepreneurs. The skills needed to be an excellent entrepreneur are the same skills you should master as a good employee. If you can't be on time to work as an employee you'll be late opening your office to do business with your clients. If you hate doing the monthly budget report for your current boss you'll hate it even more when you have to complete a financial analysis for your banker as an entrepreneur. Good employees make good entrepreneurs. And good entrepreneurs make good employees.


8. Strengthen your relationship skills - there are many different, diverse and difficult people in the workplace these days. While you might believe the lions, triggers and bears are out to get you and take away that next promotion on the corporate ladder it becomes your responsibility to learn excellent interpersonal relationship skills, in order to survive at work. It's important to demonstrate that you can get along with your teammates and management. Remember you don't have to like them but you must respect them.

After addressing these 8 areas of your career, you should notice one of 3 things. First, making some small adjustments in your thinking and behavior might make your current work place a better place. Secondly, you might identify that you enjoy the industry/profession that you are in, however you are working for the wrong company or organization within that industry. Finally, after assessing all of these areas of your career, you make the discovery that you are not working in your divide purpose or passion.

How to survive the workplace

taken from: http://www.howtodothings.com/careers/how-to-survive-the-workplace

After perfecting your resume and passing the nerve-cracking interviews, congrats! You're hired. But wait a minute, when you thought that the hard part is over, you are very wrong. In fact, the worst is yet to come. The workplace is like a jungle. As Charles Darwin described it, "It is the survival of the fittest."

Don't fret. Here are the ways you can survive-and in the long run, excel!

First, know your work. Easy, isn't it? You are hired to provide results-positive ones. During the orientation, take down every instructions needed in your task. Pay extra attention especially if the company's software or system is new to you.

During the turnover of work, make sure you ask questions whenever there are confusing terms or processes. Do not hesitate. Asking does not mean you are not intelligent. The person teaching you might have been doing the work for 2 or more years so it is easy for her.

For the first few weeks, just observe the people and the environment around you. Of course they're nice, but remember that you just met them. You can never really tell from the start if the people in the workplace are genuine. To help you with the adjustments, these are the following pointers to consider as well:
Culture - Is it like a family setting? Are they particular with their positions in such a way that there are invisible boundaries? Or is it a flat organization where you can call the Director by his first name?
Dress Code - Some companies allow jeans, while others issue 1st warning when one wears open toe shoes. It really varies.


Work Habits - Know if the company is strict on breaks. Always put on your calendar the schedule of the regular meetings and attend on time.

Email Protocols - Some are formal like, "Dear Mr. Castro", while others just use "Hi William"
Be pleasing to your boss. It's normal to get errands from bosses. Do not mind, but know the limits.

During meetings, listen first. Never interrupt someone when speaking. Think thrice before saying something. Remember, in front of you are your critics. You are the newbie-the new talk of the town. Once you blurt out nonsense, it will be known all over the workplace.

Be friendly to everyone-even with the secretary, the janitor and the telephone operator. Sooner or later, you will need their help

If you are curious about relationships in the office (like why is Mr. A not part of the lunch group, or why Ms. B is not speaking to Ms. C), let your co-workers bring it up. It's not proper to be nosy on other people's lives, especially when you are new.

Start and end your time in the office by praying or concentrating. Do not be wary of all the pressures around you. Do everything one step at a time and everything will fall into place.
Not too hard, right? Just follow this, and before you know it, you are already on top and successful!

a quote

"When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy." - Rumi

Love Yourself

1. Stop All Criticism
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself,your changes are positive.

2. Don’t Scare Yourself
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s adreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. Be Gentle And Kind And Patient
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking.Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. Be Kind To Your Mind
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

5. Praise Yourself
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

6. Support Yourself
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. Be Loving To Your Negatives
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now, you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. Take Care Of Your Body
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. Mirror Work
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you.”

10. Love Yourself .. Do It Now
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now — and do the best you can.

taken from: http://scholesyfynn.wordpress.com/

10 cara membina motivasi diri.

Hmmmm... feel like copying it down, for future reminders :P

10 Cara Membina Motivasi Diri
www.iluvislam.com


Sebelum mengambil sebarang langkah, duduk sejenak. Tarik nafas panjang dan lepaskan sekali gus. Kemudian pejamkan mata. Beri salam kepada diri sendiri dan katakan, "Hai, engkau dijadikan bukan untuk berkeluh-kesah.” Kemudian bangkitlah dan cuba lakukan perkara-perkara berikut:

1. Perbaiki imej anda Cuba lakukan sedikit perubahan
Kalau selama ini anda tidak kisah kalau seluar yang dipakai sehingga seminggu dan tidak bergosok, cuba kali ini menukarnya selalu dan pelbagaikan warnanya. Jika anda wanita, tukar imej kusam kepada kemas. Elegan dan aktif. Perkemaskan juga wajah anda denga sedikit solekan ringan. Kenakan warna-warna ceria pada tubuh anda; pada baju dan tudung. Hiasi jari dengan sebentuk cincin untuk menambah seri. Jangan terlalu pendiam, tetapi jangan pula terlalu bising. Bersikap sederhana dan ringankan mulut jika orang meminta pendapat.

2. Lakukan senaman ringan

3. Senyum Senyum boleh mengubah segala-galanya.
Hadiahkanlah senyuman kepada seseorang, anda akan mendapat senyumannya balik.





4. Berfikiran positif
Berfikiran positif membolehkan minda anda mengeluarkan arus alpha iaitu arus kecemerlangan untuk membina kejayaan. Berfikiran positif juga membuatkan perkara yang sukar menjadi senang, masalah bertukar menjadi peluang, masa depan kelihatan lebih cerah dan insyaAllah rezeki pun akan meluas. Fikiran-fikiran positif itu adalah doa berpanjangan yang kita panjatkan. Selama kita berfikiran positif, selama itulah menjadi satu pengharapan yang amat besar terhadap ALLAH.

5. Dapatkan tidur yang mencukupi
Rungsing dan marah-marah kadangkala disebabkan keletihan akibat tidak mendapat rehat yang mencukupi. Tidur yang tidak mencukupi akan mencetuskan arus theta atau arus delta, dua arus kemunduran.

6. Luahkan pada seseorang
Anda memerlukan seorang sahabat ketika anda berasa tidak stabil seperti ini, bahkan dalam suasana yang biasa pun anda memerlukan seorang sahabat.

7. Curahkan di atas kertas
Curahkan semua yang merunsingkan fikiran anda itu ke atas kertas. Curahkan segala-galanya tanpa tertinggal satu pun. Kemudian bakar dan hanyutkan ke sungai. Terasa lega.

8. Bersedia untuk berubah
Jangan teragak-agak untuk melakukan perubahan. Jika orang lain boleh, mengapa anda tidak? Apa istimewanya orang lain, sedang anda juga makhluk ALLAH yang dikurniakan dengan pelbagai kelebihan dan keistimewaan tertentu.

9. Cari kegemaran baru
Sesetengah daripada kesukaan kita akan sampai kepada penghujungnya. Hobi juga begitu. Maka apabila anda mula merasakan hidup ini mulai kosong carilah kegemaran-kegemaran baru. Tidak salah bermain game misalnya, untuk melihat adakah minat anda boleh tumbuh di sini.

10. Bertegaslah
Bertegaslah dengan diri anda sendiri. Apabila anda mengambil satu-satu keputusan anda berpegang teguh pada keputusan itu dengan meletakkan sepenuh kepercayaan bahawa anda akan berjaya.





Sumber: motivasi minda; membina jati diri gemilang (Dr.HM Tuah)

9 ways to get happy in the next 30 minutes by Real Simple Magazine

Found a good article.
Here it goes, How to be happy in the next 30 minutes.

In the next half hour, tackle as many of the following suggestions as possible. Not only will these tasks themselves increase your happiness, but the mere fact that you've achieved some concrete goals will boost your mood.


Jay Gosney
1. Raise your activity level to pump up your energy. If you're on the phone, stand up and pace. Walk to a coworker's office instead of sending an e-mail. Put more energy into your voice. Take a brisk 10-minute walk. Even better...

2. Take a walk outside. Research suggests that light stimulates brain chemicals that improve mood. For an extra boost, get your sunlight first thing in the morning. Find the best walking workout for your exercise style.

3. Reach out. Send an e-mail to a friend you haven't seen in a while, or reach out to someone new. Having close bonds with other people is one of the most important keys to happiness. When you act in a friendly way, not only will others feel more friendly toward you, but you'll also strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

4. Rid yourself of a nagging task. Deal with that insurance problem, purchase something you need, or make that long-postponed appointment with the dentist. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a rush of elation.

5. Create a more serene environment. Outer order contributes to inner peace, so spend some time organizing bills and tackling the piles in the kitchen. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Set the timer for 10 minutes and see what you can do. In that time, take a quick look around the house and see how to get organized using everyday items.

6. Do a good deed. Introduce two people by e-mail, take a minute to pass along useful information, or deliver some gratifying praise. In fact, you can also...

7. Save someone's life. Sign up to be an organ donor, and remember to tell your family about your decision. Do good, feel good―it really works!

8. Act happy. Fake it 'til you feel it. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile boosts your mood. And if you're smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable. There's no need to walk around in a constant state of worry. After all, what's the worst that can happen if you bounce a check or leave wet clothes in the dryer?

9. Learn something new. Think of a subject that you wish you knew more about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest! Pick a topic that really interests you, not something you think you "should" or "need to" learn about.

Keep reading:

Get happy on the cheap.

How to improve (almost) everything in your life, from your dinner order to your career.

Learn 60-second relaxation tricks.

How to make small talk

Came across this articles,
quite useful for me ;)

Small talk can be a big challenge, but a little preparation and confidence is all you need. As a skilled small talker you will come across as a more open and friendly person, compared to someone who doesn't say much during social situations. Just don't overdo it because then people will find you annoying and too chatty.


Step1
Practice. Converse with everyone you come across: cashiers, waiters, people you're in line with, neighbors, co-workers and kids. Chat with folks unlike yourself, from seniors to teens to tourists.

Step2
Read everything: cookbooks, newspapers, magazines, reviews, product inserts, maps, signs and catalogs. Everything is a source of information that can be discussed.

Step3
Force yourself to get into small talk situations, like doctors' waiting rooms, cocktail parties and office meetings. Accept invitations, or host your own gathering.

Step4
Immerse yourself in culture, both high and low. Television, music, sports, fashion, art and poetry are great sources of chat. If you can't stand Shakespeare, that too is a good topic for talk.

Step5
Keep a journal. Write down funny stories you hear, beautiful things you see, quotes, observations, shopping lists and calls you made. That story of the long-distance operator misunderstanding you could become an opening line.

Step6
Talk to yourself in the mirror. Make a random list of topics and see what you have to say on the subjects. Baseball, Russia, butter, hip-hop, shoes ...the more varied your list, the better.

Step7
Expand your horizons. Go home a new way. Try sushi. Play pinball. Go online. Paint a watercolor. Bake a pie. Try something new every day.

Step8
Be a better listener. Did your boss just say she suffers from migraines? Did your doctor just have twins? These are opportunities for making small talk.

Step9
Work on confidence, overcoming shyness and any feelings of stage fright. Remember, the more you know, the more you know you can talk about

One step at a time . Cant afford to loose more time anymore :(

:(

i'm searching for a place call home~

I have a blog

Finally, I had a blog. i wanna express all my stuck feelings, thoughts and deliver it the right way. in more positive ways. unlike before.
What should i start first?

i managed to get a job already,( mind you nowadays it is quite hard to land on a job), a contract job which is good to me since a lot of me needs to be mended, to take care of, and of course to change to be a better me.

To be honest, i've started the job quite not so good, since right now i'm still recovering. Its hard to deal with mentally challenged people since they are so healthy and fit. But i'm glad i had been given this opportunity to improve myself (I hope so).

My biggest obstacles would be communication, and a stuck brain. I find it so hard to think at a time. I guess theres so much things that i need to take care of that really makes my brain goes freezed all the time.